Time spent on the front porch in the mid-summer heat braiding pine straw that became sharp, uncomfortable bracelets and necklaces. A long string tied to a June bug’s leg and “flying it” til you- or it – quit. Building a much too tall and equally unstable bicycle ramp out of old wood and convincing my brother to jump it, resulting in an ER visit for him and grounding for me. Chasing black runner snakes, only to learn they will chase you back. Hours upon hours on a float in the middle of the lake, contemplating life. Or not.
These are all memories from a childhood born out of boredom, where boredom was an incredibly regular and often encouraged part of life. A time, a space, the in-between all the other “stuff” we were doing that has been lost. The slow, quiet removal of the ability to be bored is having a much larger impact on society than we realize.
Christine Rosen takes a look at the in-between when she discusses “interstitial time.” Rosen says, “Interstices are the gaps between things, as with the cells in your body or the spaces between architectural columns. When applied to time, it means the many bits of time scattered throughout the day, such as the five minutes that students have in between classes or the unknown number of seconds that pass while you are waiting for an elevator. These moments used to be given over to silent reflection or conversation with whoever was around. Now, for most of us, nearly all of them are grabbed by our phones”.
I like to look at both the long stretches of boredom and the small in-between moments as equally important. Either way, it is time that has been ripped from us due to technology. And it is not just time that is stolen. It is creativity. Openness. Thoughtfulness. Connections. It has made us less patient. Less empathetic towards others. Our need to be constantly entertained is robbing us not only of ideas but our ability to just BE in the world.
How many times do we reach for our phone at a stop light because the two minutes of simply sitting feels like too much? When was the last time you were in a waiting room and didn’t see the tops of heads or faces lit up by a screen? I am willing to bet if you made eye contact with someone, they would be north of 60.
When was the last time we let our kids be bored? Let them sit with friends (device and game-free) and just figure it out. I think of all the amazing connections that have been formed because two people had five minutes in a coffee shop somewhere, were phone-free, and simply spoke to one another.
According to Pew Research, nine out of ten Americans own a smartphone, and 95 percent of teenagers have access to one. A 2024 Pew survey of teens ages 13-17 found that half said they were online “almost constantly.” I think it is time we take a look at some of the important things we have lost at the expense of technology. Encourage your kids to be bored and embrace the in-between. It is where really cool life stuff happens.
Kristi Bush serves as a national education consultant and social media safety advocate. She is a licensed social worker with greater than 15 years of clinical practice and health care experience. She attended Troy and Auburn University where she studied social work and counseling. Kristi travels nationally and has spoken with thousands of children, parents, professionals and organizations about the benefits and threats associated with social media. You may reach Kristi through her website at www.knbcommunications.com.
Author: Kristi Bush
Kristi Bush serves as a national education consultant and social media safety advocate. She is a licensed social worker with greater than 15 years of clinical practice and health care experience. She attended Troy and Auburn University where she studied social work and counseling. Kristi travels nationally and has spoken with thousands of children, parents, professionals and organizations about the benefits and threats associated with social media. You may reach Kristi through her website at www.knbcommunications.com.
